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Do Libras settle or are they picky in love?

I met a guy (libra) at the end of last year and the most odd yet perfect time. We were both jaded people from love and were not interested in anything close to a relationship. He surprised me and he was actually someone I could see myself with but regardless, tho he was somewhat special. I liked his old fashioned approach and his honesty and he appreciated my simple and very feminine style, w. strong values and ambitious. We were still numb (fr. the previous situation) and we ended up just being "friends". (he was the first decent, good guy I've met). Recently, I've been having WEIRD, random dreams about him. The last one I felt so strong about: we rented a cabin up in the mountain w. a bunch of friends and I had heard he had a new gf. I saw her and she was a skanky girl and SOO NOT HIS TYPE. I woke up feeling very sad. Don't know what it is - I don't have major feelings for the guy yet I see very highly of him. Maybe b/c he was the last "good thing" i've experienced w. guys. WELL, long and behold, I just found out he DOES have a gf and she is not his type (she's a tomboy and he likes girlie girls) yet I have no ill feelings, my heart is not broken, nor do I have that upset feeling in my stomach. It sucks a bit but I'm really happy for them. It's weird though b/c she's not his type; although I do have to say I'm just really glad she's not a skank and she is a tough, tough chick that can handle his BS lol it's weird: maybe we switched spots? haha In the pat few months, I've discovered that I acted out on my picky-ness and became judgemental w. guys and everything is "no no no, not good enough" and he (i guess) learned how to settle (my old mistake) and he settled for a friend (which is what I normally do). I'm am sincerely happy for them but does anybody else find this weird? They were all friends and when I met him, he expressed no interest in her and said she was too much of a "boy" lol (we talked about who we thought were attractive to us; yes we were that honest). Back then i knew he was very hurt b/c he was in a serious thing for 6 yrs and he got dumped. I guess those things happen though; when you hang out w. friends all the time, you're bound to just fall :) It's like in "saved by the bell". Zack's type of girl was Kelly: cute, pretty yet has values. But then he went for Tori: the tough chick w. the motorcycle jacket and was unapologetic...

Public Comments

1. they are usually picky in love and don't settle. if they settle, usually drugs is the main reason. however, i don't think he settled for this girl. he probably saw something in her that really impressed him.
2. You never mentioned what sign you are, only him being a Libra. Let me say this...Libras like both girly girls and tough, can hold their own types, as Libras are the scales, which mean they are and like a bit of both....they may say they prefer girly girls, but the truth is they can easily become involved with a complete opposite, as Libra girls can too (I am a Libra). She just happened to be there, around him all the time, probably, and the friends relationship turned into a love one. I myself have gotten involved many times in the past with ones that were just friends, but they were around all the time and there for me...and some were the complete opposite of what I was usually attracted to. Because it then, became more of what the person was about, leaving me to see them differently, not just according to my taste....but how they were there for me, and always around, to help, etc. Especially the friends that were there after my heart was broken, or I was hurt. Usually, this is not a final, love of his life relationship, so you probably could end up going out again, if you are around at the right time, or if it is to be....but, hopefully, you are not wanting him just cause now he is w/someone else....this also happens. Human nature, I guess. I advised you earlier on a question about this guys bd coming up, and I still say to text or send him a e card on his birthday, just to let him know you are still thinking of him...nothing serious or outta line....just a Happy Birthday, letting him know you haven't forgotten him and then just wait and see what may happen. Its not like he got married, so there is still plenty of hope. And learn from ur mistake of letting him go the 1st time if by any chance you get together w/him again. There is plenty of hope here, and I think if you wait, u will see. Good luck~
3. I'm a libra, I settle and give guys a chance but not for too long. There's like a 1 month trial period. If I realize that a guy is not the one for me I drop him. As horrible as that may sound, I just don't want to waste any more time than is necessary, people are so afraid of hurting feelings but life is too short to be in an unhappy relationship. Honesty is the best policy. I wasted 5 years on someone who was completely wrong for me thinking things would change. But he was exactly the same way at 21 as he was when we were 16. Never again. Maybe your friend feels the same way. He doesn't want to rule out finding love with anyone and he thinks she's cool so he's seeing how things go. It is kinda weird that you had a dream like that and then it was pretty much true. Maybe you guys have a special bond and you guys will reconnect some day. :D
4. They are picky
5. i think dee gave u a pretty good sums up about the dual natures of libras. they are picky and fickle yet they sometimes go for the complete opposites of what u'd expect them to go for or do. they also seem to like to 'shock' or whats different from the rest. good luck